Internal Family Systems is the dissociation we all experience from our upbringings, our families of origin – an individual approach to the Family Systems Therapy that was used for families of High Conflict Divorce within the recommendations of the legal system within family court (not that any of those were priority in such families in the past, which has created an abundance of traumatic events and mental health crisis in epidemic proportions right now with alienation, isolation and loss of parental rights).
Trying to integrate all the parts of us that we have created over our lifetime, is a lot of the hard part of shadow work and therapy. We all created patterns, and we need to unlearn those patterns from our environments from our upbringings. A lot of the feelings of shame get unaddressed as children, and we need to navigate through those triggers and work through them in our adult years, if we are self-reflective enough and willing to do the work.
I found this to be the best video and explanation of what this type of work is like. The inner critic that we all have within us, are the narratives we interpreted through our lifetimes. Many of these narratives are passed down through generations, we are dealing with ancestral and generational trauma. This is the best video i have found on inner children/shame and a bit of the explanation of the work I do.
I also highly recommend Brene Brown in her expertise of work, research and data specifically with regards to shame. Something we do not pay enough attention to, yet it is much of the root cause of our issues of safety within our self trust (or lack of), that we carry and pass on to others. Much of this is conditioning and learned before the age of 7.
Please go to my resources page to learn more.
