It is very well known within the trauma informed mental health community, that transgenderism is a result of trauma from childhood in which the person decided to self-harm based on an ideology of “connection” and “identity”. Correlations have been made with high ACE 4+ (see the Adverse Childhood Experiences page) scores. Below is a Masters… Continue reading Transgenderism

The Vagus Nerve

The Polyvagal Theory was proposed by Dr. Stephen Porges who is the director of Brain-body center at the University of Illinois. The polyvagal theory is the importance of the vagus nerve when it works optimally you are likely to recover quickly after stress, illness or injury. If it’s not functioning optimally the signals misfire and… Continue reading The Vagus Nerve


Oh shame. Brene Brown is the shame master researcher who speaks often about vulnerability. Vulnerability is where we find healing and acceptance, but if misused or abused, that vulnerability can be a deep sense of shame. But what is shame? Ever heard the term, “Shame on you!” That is a person’s attempt to make you… Continue reading Shame

Stages of Grief

Based on the Kubler-Ross Model of Grief there are 5 stages of grief, which can be experienced in any order. Most people fluctuate between denial, anger, depression and bargaining. Keep in mind that grief isn’t just when someone you know and love dies. It is any change in circumstance that causes extreme difficulty and it… Continue reading Stages of Grief

Abuse and Stockholm Syndrome

According to psychology today the list of emotional and psychological abuse are defined below. What are the warning signs of emotional abuse? Emotional abuse centers around control, manipulation, isolation, and demeaning or threatening behavior. Signs of abuse include: • Monitoring and controlling a person’s behavior, such as who they spend time with or how they… Continue reading Abuse and Stockholm Syndrome

The Gift Of Trauma

There are many interpretations of what the gifts are of trauma. It’s difficult at first to see the gifts in some of what we have had to go through, but there is always a gift in it we just have to search much harder to find it. From my own personal experience, I would have… Continue reading The Gift Of Trauma

For the Youth

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS IN IMMEDIATE AND EXTREME DANGER PLEASE CALL 9-1-1If you need help with other things such as feeling suicidal, there are some options below for immediate assistance.USA/Canada Suicide line: 1-800-784-2433Canadian Children’s Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868Canadian Children’s Text: 686868USA/Canada Teen line: 1-800-852-8336 (6pm-10pm PST) Free online assistance from anywhere and anytime:… Continue reading For the Youth


IF YOU ARE SUICIDAL AND ARE SEEKING AN IMMEDIATE INTERVENTION PLEASE CALL ONE OF THE NUMBERS BELOW TO SPEAK TO A CRISIS LINE WORKER AT ONCE!USA AND CANADA: 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) Online assistance to text volunteers 24 hours a day/ 7 days a week: While this website specifically is designed with an intention of wanting… Continue reading IF YOU ARE IN CRISIS